CORE Trauma Healing Center
Trauma, Healing and Attachment Resources
On The Web:
http://www.emdr.com EMDR Institute
http://www.rossinst.com Colin A. Ross Institute
http://www.endritualabuse.org Ellen Lacter (RAMC - Ritual Abuse and Mind Control)
http://www.mosaicminds.org (on DID - Dissociative Identity Disorder support)
http://www.survivorship.org (on DID support)
http://www.couplescounselling4u.co.nz (attachment and adult relationship)
http://www.mindfulnesscds.com/ Jon Kabat Zinn and mindfulness
http://www.getselfhelp.co.uk DBT skills
http://www.fireproofmymarriage.com Marital skills
http://jonsi-jonsi.blogspot.com/2011/11/popsicle-stick-jokes-about-narcissism.htmls (Coping with narcissism, great piece on triangulation)
http://www.lovefraud.com Relationships with sociopaths
http://lightshouse.org/lights-blog/toxic-parents-and-personality-disorders-2#axzz2q7YDsLFrs Good overview of toxic parents and personality disorders
F*ck That: An Honest Meditation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=92i5m3tV5XY An honest and funny meditation.
The Courage to Heal - Laura Davis
John Bradshaw on The Family - John Bradshaw
Healing The Shame That Binds You - John Bradshaw
Co-Dependent No More - Melody Beattie
Transforming the Pain (vicarious traumatization) - Laurie Pearlman
Life After Trauma: A Workbook - Dena Rosenbloom
Hot Monogamy - Patricia Love
The Heart of Addiction - Lance Dodes
Getting the Love You Want Workbook - Harville Hendrix
When Good Men Behave Badly - David Wexier
Women Who Run With The Wolves - Clarissa Estes Pincola
The Wisdom of a Broken Heart - Susan Piver
Deceived: Healing Sexual Betrayal - Claudia Black
You are the One You've Been Waiting For - Richard Schwartz
Hold Me Tight - Sue Johnson
The Room - Emma Donoghue
The Prince of Tides
The History of Us
The United States of Tara (about DID, a series available on Netflix, etc)
City of Angels
August: Osage County
Frankie and Alice
Good Will Hunting
A Guided Experience on Attachment
A Crying Baby Audio
What do you feel when you hear this? Anxious? Tense? Sad? Angry? A baby cries to get it's needs met, it's only way to communicate and engage us. There are thousands of youtube videos on how to stop a baby's crying...swaddling, music, massage, etc. Baby's cries activate our attachment bond so we act to protect or nurture.
Cat Soothing Crying Baby to Sleep
A baby's cries is a universal call that all mammals respond to. Even this cat responds to a human baby's cries.
Husky Calms Crying Baby
The distress of a crying baby moves us to respond. When our own attachment is healthy, we help the baby co-regulate (soothe themselves through our modeling).
Baby Elephant Wept Uncontrollably for 5 Hours after Mother Stomped On It & Tried to Kill It
Abandonment, neglect and abuse cause attachment wounds, depression, anxiety and more. Even when it's our caretaker that's causing the despair, we are dependent on them for our survival. It leaves us craving a deep unmet need. Thus, the need for psychological survival and defense mechanisms.....
Baby Cries to Mom's Singing
This is a heartbreaking video. Baby FEELS her pain, tries to reach out to mom. Finally, mom sees baby's pain and tends to baby. Attachment is experienced through non-verbal communication, by eye contact, tone of voice, body language and emotional states.
When caretakers respond to a baby's needs in a healthy way, a baby develops a secure attachment. People who were neglected by a depressed, sick, narcissistic or abusive parent often grow up with depressed and/or anxious feelings, with no conscious memory of why they feel that way. It's an invisible wound. How do we respond to another's pain and need?
What do we do when we can't sooth a distressed child? Our own defenses and attachment styles are activated. Do we walk away, plead, manipulate, threaten, assault, nurture, mock, laugh, get help? Consider your own process when someone you love is inconsolable, unresponsive or unavailable. We all have an attach/fight/flight/freeze response option.
John Bowlby and Attachment Theory
Listen to the creator of Attachment Theory directly. This links to wonderful original videos of his research with children and their caretakers.